We often confuse our real life with TV shows and movies. In TV shows, romantic affairs before marriage are demonstrated with so much sentiment and devotion. Whereas the same love in conjugal life is portrayed as awfully painful or something that makes one’s life miserable and full of complexity. We start off our marriage with this similar negativity captivating our minds in real life.
Our society has made the married couple’s relationship somewhat competitive. One’s dominion over another, the fictitious competition of exposing each other’s flaws appears to be an endless contestation. Partners comparing and fighting over each other’s in-laws has been the everyday topic of an argument in today’s marital life.
Have we ever stopped to consider the purpose of our marriage? Or, more precisely, have we ever truly respected our very existence? If we truly understood what a marital relationship entails, we would not have made such a fool of ourselves by establishing the boundaries of ‘your’ or ‘mine’ while undermining ‘us’.
We frequently overlook that two better halves make up a better one. By belittling one-half, you are actually disparaging the entire unit.
Most couples create distance between themselves not due to minor or major issues but due to a lack of communication. If they do manage to communicate, it usually leads to a fight.
We all make mistakes and misunderstand each other. However, it strengthens the bond if we can discuss through our differences in the path of life.
When both are on good terms, there is little to complain about to outsiders, and the rest is irrelevant.
We fall into oblivion about our family’s journey that we start together. How can you ensure peace in the family if you don’t ensure peace among yourselves first? How can we ever be truly happy, if we keep replacing the place of caress with ego?
One of the primary reasons why marriages fail is our intolerance and unforgiving attitude towards our partners. We brag about our contribution to our partner’s life when the contribution is simply the essence of marriage. Love is an act of giving where there’s no room for competition.
So let go of the narrowness of mind and appreciate the enormity in thoughts and practice. No one is above imperfections. Everybody has flaws, and your partner is no exception. So admire the good qualities they have and focus less on the flaws. Your marriage is not a race, and you’re not here to win on your own. Instead, it’s a commitment to moving forward together enjoying the journey of life. Therefore, rather than prioritizing yourself and making life all about you, learn to be whole.
